The Hunt
    What do we do when we want to speed on the highway?  We push on the gas pedal harder.  So, what do we do when we want to maximize our positive beliefs?
    1.    We find a positive trait that we want to believe about ourselves and/or others.
    2.    We find a piece of evidence to support our positive belief.  
    "For many traits, such as leadership, there are so many ways to define it that one is free to pick the criterion that will most flatter oneself.  If I’m confident, I can define leadership as confidence.  If I think I’m high on people skills, I can define leadership as the ability to understand and influence people.  When comparing ourselves to others, the general process is this:  Frame the question (unconsciously, automatically) so that the trait in question is related to a self-perceived strength, then go out and look for evidence that you have the strength.  Once you find a piece of evidence, once you have a “makes sense” story, you are done". ---The Happiness Hypothesis, p. 68
    3.    We give expression to our “makes sense” story (verbal, written, other) 
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    This 3-step method, I call "The Hunt", should seem a little familiar, since it is a process you use every day of your life, mostly unconsciously and automatically.  
    But now invite you to do The Hunt in a new way: consciously, deliberately and more positively.  Metaphorically speaking, "since you already speed, why not speed faster?"  
    The movie presented above reflects this more deliberate pedal-to-the-metal approach as the man follows the 3-step process:
    First, find a positive trait
    A man wants to believe he is married to the most beautiful woman on earth
    Second, Find a piece of evidence
    The man modifies the earlier quote for guidance.
    For many traits, such as beauty, there are so many ways to define it that one is free to pick the criterion that will most flatter oneself (and one’s wife).  If my wife has blue eyes, brown hair and a gorgeous smile, I can define beauty as blue eyes, brown hair and a gorgeous smile.  If I think my wife is a great dresser, I can define beauty as stylish dressing.  If I think my wife has a charming personality and character, I can define beauty that way.
    This man wants to hold the belief that his wife is not just beautiful, but the most beautiful woman on earth. He, therefore, frames the question so that his wife is the only one in the whole world who fits the bill.  He sets the standard by deciding, “the most beautiful woman in the world is the one who loves me, and only me…and has beautiful long brown hair...and that would be my wife”  He has his piece of evidence, his “makes sense” story.  
    Third, give expression
    The man tells his wife often, with sincerity, “you are the most beautiful woman on earth”...and he strives diligently to treat her so.  
    Good things result.